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Every year we make a New Year’s resolution only to leave it lost in the sea of dreams
and wants and watch it resurface the next year when you think of your resolutions all
over again.
WELL NOT ANYMORE!
This year lets make a change for the better and make these resolutions HAPPEN with 5 EASY steps! Read More…
Top 5 secrets of success
1. Imagine SUCCESS- Every success story starts off with one important foundation – You need to think BIG. You can’t just stop at dreaming though, you need to visualize success in your mind so well that it’s within your reach.
Think of the next five years of your life as a video tape. Become so skilled at visualizing that you can actually play this video tape in fast forward up until the moment you reach your goals and then some. These are some things you should think about:
- How does it feel to change your life?
- How does it feel to have your income triple?
- How does it feel to achieve all this success?
- What will everything look like once you’ve achieved it?
People that achieve success possess an open-minded attitude filled with faith that they can have what they want if they can simply envision it as stepping stone on the path of MASSIVE ACTION to getting it.
5 ways to have BETTER time management
1) Make lists: Putting things on paper makes it easier for you to remember the things you have to do. It is easy to forget what you have to do when it is flying around along with a million other to-do’s in your head. Also, making lists is an easy way to block out other responsibilities and future obligations and focus on the task(s) at hand.
Tips for effective list planning:
-Keep your lists short.
You do not want to overload yourself or overshadow small successes with big goals.
-Be specific.
You do not want to waste time trying to DECIDE what you’re going to do while doing your to-do list.
2) Make use of down time: A lot of people want to plan out parts of their day, but they simply don’t have enough time. Using down times like when you’re walking, showering, or maybe even driving, provide the perfect opportunity to plan for later on in the day or goals for the next day.
Tips for effective goal planning:
-Break big goals into several small goals. As long as you get all your small goals completed, your long term goal achievement will follow.
-Prioritization is key! Finding out which of your tasks are most important makes it easier for you to avoid wasting time. Read More…
3 easy steps for better communication
- Stop criticizing others:
When you criticize others you’re slow hacking away at the pillars that hold your relationship together. Criticizing others lowers their self-esteem and blinds them from seeing what they need to work on by focusing on their shortcomings instead of an immediate plan for improvement.Instead of criticizing, a better alternative is to emphasize on their use of the opposing, desired behavior so that they’re motivated to IMPROVE on their weakness(es). - Don’t bring up the past:
Always avoid bringing up the distant past because it avoids closure of both past and current discussions. Staying on topic is a great way to avoid having a conversation shift into an uncomfortable argument.Focus on the topic at hand while directing the majority of the conversation on solutions rather than reasons/justifications on the severity or cause of the problem. After a decision/conclusion is reached, it is important to restate the plan for action to make sure you’re on the same page to secure that the problem will not reoccur. - Taking a breather is okay, but never ignore a problem:
When a discussion turns into a yelling match, turn to your all time best friend; a time out. Often times we say things we don’t mean when we’re angry so rather than turning a conversation ugly, keep it civil and take a time to cool off. Keep in mind that just because you’re taking some time to relax, you need to agree to go back to the conversation and finish the problem at hand.Leaving a problem unattended to is an invitation to more hurt feelings and future problematic instances.
How far CAN you go?
What’s stopping you from being the best that you can be? Could it be lack of opportunities? Could it be lack of skills? Lucky for you, it’s neither.
Often times people don’t achieve their aspirations because of one simple reason. Limits. There’s a difference between a goal and a limit.
A goal is something you want with a deadline and a limit is an opinion on how far you CAN go. There’s a difference between, “I’m going to be an athlete.” and “I’m going to be the best damn athlete anyone has EVER seen.” I know you’re probably thinking, “Eduardo, are you off your rocker?” but it’s true.
Not only are we our own toughest critic, but we’re also our own worst enemy. Recent studies show that 95% of our motivation is conducted as internal self-talk. If 95% of the time you are limiting yourself or discouraging yourself from doing more work than you THINK you CAN do, then imagine how much effort you’re missing out on!
Every goal comes down to simple day-to-day decisions that over TIME lead to MASSIVE changes in your life. Today, I am giving you a chance to make a DECISION:
I challenge you to never settle for less than what you’re humanly capable of.
* Remember: You can only be as great as the limit you set for yourself.
So the next time you’re thinking about how far YOU want to go, remember me and think, “EVERY goal is meant to be REACHED and SURPASSED, the ONLY reason we have them is to have something to AIM at!”
Lessons for today::
- Obstacles are things people see when you take your eyes off of your dreams.
- Shoot for the moon so that even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.
- NEVER settle for less than what you’re humanly capable of.
- You can only be as great as the limits you set on yourself.
Attitudes are contagious, are yours worth catching?
Everyone has burdens and problems, but what counts is how you carry them. Many people give up on good qualities like being kind and generous because they’ve been taken advantage of, but this usually leads to more negativity and problems in the future.
I know what you’re thinking, “Yeah that’s happened to me! How the heck can I avoid this?!” Well I’ll tell you, it all starts with your attitude.
Attitude is a powerful thing that can either make you or break you. Too many people rely on good “luck” and “opportunities” as reasons why people are successful, but the answer lies on something much more reliable. Success is not about what you have, but what you do with what you have left. Here is a list of inspirational people who overcame their hardships with a POSITIVE attitude.
Abraham Lincoln:
-Lost his home
-Went bankrupt
-Lost in his campaign for state legislature, speaker of state legislature, elector, land officer, senate, and vice president.
-Didn’t get accepted into law school.
Soichiro Honda:
-Denied by Toyota for his design of a new piston twice.
-Factory was destroyed during war.
-Steel production donated to war efforts kept his business from producing cars.
-Ridiculed in school for his design of a piston.
Others such as J.K. Rowling, Hank Williams, Ben Franklin, Charles Dickens, and the list goes on and on.
So today, when you get into a car accident or get an F on your next test, I challenge you not to see it as a hold back, but as an OBSTACLE to overcome. Who knows, you might meet your soul mate on the bus or learn the study techniques that got you into Harvard.
Anyone can focus on being optimistic when times are easy, but it takes a strong person to overcome negativity when times get rough.
Lessons of the day:
- Every thought is a seed. If you plant a seed of doubt, don’t count on harvesting confidence.
- Being in a good frame of mind helps keep you in the picture of greatness.
Be the change!
Are you tired of something and just wish it would change?
Do you find yourself hoping and praying for people to stop doing some of the negative things they do?
Maybe someone gave you a bad attitude or screamed at you when you didn’t deserve it? So what did you? You probably did what anyone would do and you let them have it.
WRONG
Everyone always refers you to that age old saying, “An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.” Unfortunately the last time I checked, firefighters fight fire with water and not by adding more to the flame.
BUT I HAVE GOOD NEWS: There is a way to fix these wrongs.
• Leading by example.
Too often do we take on the role of a vigilante and want to fix these problems by offering immediate consequences or criticizing these individuals, but it often leads to a dead end “I’m right, you’re right” argument.
Criticizing starts a discussion in a negative matter and immediately puts others in defense mode. Once in this defense mode people go out of their way to justify their actions far beyond the point of reason.
EXAMPLE:
Have you felt tired throughout the day and out of the blue, someone goes out of their way and has the nerve to tell you, “Wow, you look tired.” All of a sudden we start spitting out a million reasons & excuses justifying why we’re tired rather than just admitting our shortcoming. Well imagine when you critique the way they choose to carry themselves or treat other people.
Next time, rather than TELL someone what they’re doing wrong, SHOW them what it looks like to do it right. We never know what people have seen, felt, or even experienced so we can NEVER know who needs a taste of their own medicine!
Maybe they’re acting out because someone treated them the same way they’re treating you. So next time someone does something YOU want them to change, let an expert like you show them how it’s done 
. Observational learning is one of the THREE most powerful ways to learn something new. Lets all keep the positive energy in rotation by starting a new circle, a circle beginning and ending with YOU.
LESSONS FOR TODAY:
• “I will be the change I want to see in other people.”
• “Teach a man peace and he will show you peace.
Teach a man pain and he will show you pain.”